I don't know how to handle my mom and our relationship during this engagement/ wedding planning. There, I've said it.
The precursor is she is paying for the whole she-bang, which we are incredibly grateful for, buuuut knowing that...
How do you get what you want while meeting a MOB's expectations knowing it's her money?
I knew, like I know the sky to be blue that my mom has always wanted us to host the wedding in Phoenix. At the very beginning when we got engaged, she said, whatever I want and where ever.
It's been over a month and yes, I still have no venue or date. She is tired of answering the questions coming from family and friends.
Yesterday, me and my fiance went and looked at a place, here in Dallas. It was awesome, I was 80% sold because I think that their catering list will hike up the budget phenomenally. My fiance loved the place. (I will post pictures soon)
I did what I've done after scouting out each venue, called my mom and talked it out with her. Then, I heard it - withholding in the background of our conversation was her non-excitement about Dallas. I don't know what the woman has against the city I live in, seriously. Maybe, it's the same dislike I have for Phoenix?!? I have to beg the woman to come visit and the majority of her visits here were because she was in a layover to someplace else. I digress.
I laid out the pros of having it in Dallas. She put in some cons, "for me to think about".
This morning she calls and just like I knew the sky to be blue, she says this, "I really think your wedding should be in Phoenix"
I knew it!
Her claim is that it seems I need some help or a push in a direction, so there it is. How do you deal with your mother (or financier) when your ideas don't match up?
**About Mexico, my fiance is in the military and they just debriefed their units about the situation down there and has told their personnel not to go on any personal trips to Mexico. And that bummed me out like you wouldn't believe.**