I'd Steal This Wedding as My Own if I Could

Downtown.
Check!



B monogram.
Looooooooooove.



See all the rest of MiBelle's wedding, here.

Loving It

Can I have some of this, please?


*Photo by Image is Found

Found over at Ashley Rose Photography. IMO she is one of the hippest, coolest peeps on the internet. I have no idea how I stumbled onto her blog, I just did, isn't that the best?

MOB Issues

I don't know how to handle my mom and our relationship during this engagement/ wedding planning. There, I've said it.

The precursor is she is paying for the whole she-bang, which we are incredibly grateful for, buuuut knowing that...

How do you get what you want while meeting a MOB's expectations knowing it's her money?

I knew, like I know the sky to be blue that my mom has always wanted us to host the wedding in Phoenix. At the very beginning when we got engaged, she said, whatever I want and where ever.

It's been over a month and yes, I still have no venue or date. She is tired of answering the questions coming from family and friends.

Yesterday, me and my fiance went and looked at a place, here in Dallas. It was awesome, I was 80% sold because I think that their catering list will hike up the budget phenomenally. My fiance loved the place. (I will post pictures soon)

I did what I've done after scouting out each venue, called my mom and talked it out with her. Then, I heard it - withholding in the background of our conversation was her non-excitement about Dallas. I don't know what the woman has against the city I live in, seriously. Maybe, it's the same dislike I have for Phoenix?!? I have to beg the woman to come visit and the majority of her visits here were because she was in a layover to someplace else. I digress.

I laid out the pros of having it in Dallas. She put in some cons, "for me to think about".

This morning she calls and just like I knew the sky to be blue, she says this, "I really think your wedding should be in Phoenix"

I knew it!

Her claim is that it seems I need some help or a push in a direction, so there it is. How do you deal with your mother (or financier) when your ideas don't match up?


**About Mexico, my fiance is in the military and they just debriefed their units about the situation down there and has told their personnel not to go on any personal trips to Mexico. And that bummed me out like you wouldn't believe.**

Just a Minor Detail

I like weddings, seriously, I do. And I know I'm going to have mad fun planning my own once the foundation is set.

All that venue huntin' and I'm not going to lie...we have nothing, nada, zip.

We did have Mexico for a week - then the drug cartel wars news got to us and that was a whole other ballgame.

Las Vegas is always our plan B.

It's not a bad plan B because so much can happen in our wedding weekend if we go that route. But I'm the type if you are going to do Vegas, you gotta do Vegas.

Know what I mean?

Meanwhile, I'm trying to not overthink this. It's just a venue, a location, a site and a date. What is so hard about that? Seriously.

It's Your Day

Yeah. Right.

Who came up with that?

Just the Two of Us

Check out this wedding just for two. The Bride and Groom. Done, that's all that were in attendance. Plus the photographer and the officiant, but you get it.




I wish I had the balls to even think of doing this...

**From Always A Blogsmaid, see original post here.**

To the Right, To the Right

You see those blog links? Those people inspire and make me drool on a daily basis. Check them out.

Venue Huntin': Nearing the End of the Road

Seriously. I saw a lot. The next one up, is something special as I thought nothing could beat out the Mondrian. And I mean nothing. Until - Angelic Grove.

Angelic Grove is a floral/event design company in Phoenix. It's run by a husband and wife team. They rent out their showroom for small, intimate events. Perf!



It looks like an industrial loft. Perf!





It's downtown. Even better - even though I'm the only one that thought that was a plus. You see, my mom lives half an hour from downtown and when we were driving back home from Angelic Grove, she made sure to make every comment she could about how far away it is. This is what I deal with constantly.

And I loved the owner. Can you tell, I have a thing for contacts. Either love 'em or not. I truly feel that they are half of what sells a place to me. If they can't talk it up like they love it too, I just can't fall myself. If they aren't enthusiastic about it, how can I be?

Angelic Grove had no negatives. Not one. After, I saw this place, I was sold. Done!

Buuuuut - my mother kept making her comments and we moved on, "just to check it out" to The Castle of Ashley Manor...

A castle, you say? Ya. I'm not a castle girly but I gave it a chance.

I only have pictures of the gardens because guess what? That's all I liked. The gardens. The Castle has a set up where ceremony happens outdoors and reception indoors. I asked and no one has ever had their reception outside, ever. But, it's so much prettier...



I asked again and I would have to pay the full price to only use half the facility.


And then I ate, again.



I kid you, not.

Swoon

Oh my, go check out today's featured wedding on Style Me Pretty. The event took place in Spain and the couple stayed within their $10,000 budget.



I cannot wait to see the rest of this lovely destination wedding!

WANT.

Vegas?

It was around this time - after seeing four venues and hearing prices that will scare you into next year, that a city kept creeping into my mind. And I finally understood why so many brides just flock there instead of dealing with all this. Big casino lights, buffets, shows and gambling floated around in my head.

Venue Huntin' Part Three

This day I was so very excited. You see I was always looking for a loft/gallery space for our wedding. I wanted something empty and industrial looking that we could do whatever in terms of decor to make the space our own. This type of space is very hard to find in Phoenix - land of the golf and spa resorts.

After all my googling, I found such a place. Google is my new BFF. No doubt. I get a kick whenever it gives me new venues that I hadn't seen before.

I found Inspirador.

It's website and photos didn't give it much justice but I was in town for two weeks, what else did I have to do but look at venues?!? Off I went to downtown Chandler - which is a town southwest of Phoenix.

I liked the contact. I liked the outdoor courtyard. But with our small guest list of only 65 invited people, the site was way too large. I don't want to feel like mice in a large room. And on top of that, their pricing was the scariest thing I'd seen yet. It just wouldn't do for our small intimate wedding.

Our Story

I thought I'd give a quick background on the how we met and how he asked me...

Yep, that's my ring. It's designed by David Yurman and yes, it's not your typical engagement ring. But, I have wanted this ring for-eva and I'm not a diamond girl, so its the perfect ring for me.

We met about two years ago at a bar. Take it in.

You can meet the love of your life at a bar. It's not easy.

We met on a night where me and my friends had a pre-drinking party at my apartment. The bar was in walking distance so I drank all I wanted "for free" before heading to the bar to dance it all off. Point is, I was semi-drunk before entering the bar...

On the dance floor He approached me and asked me for a dance lesson. I don't remember what I said here. WAIT. I don't remember what I said for a good chunk of this evening...

After our "lesson", he took me to the bar and next thing I know, he is giving me a shot. I don't do shots. That's one easy way for me to end the night. Plus, I'm already blitzed. No shots for me. I kindly turned it down. He took great offense to that and became upset that I wouldn't accept a drink/shot from him. So off he went.

Two weeks later - I got a text from Him and we talked/texted back and forth the rest of the evening. The next day we were both going to be at a local food festival. We decided to text each other to see if we could meet up there. I never got a text from him. (turns out he forgot his phone at home)

Two weeks later - I was bored to tears late at night and was going through my phone, I saw his number and decided what the heck? I texted him. Again, we texted each other back and forth the rest of the night. This time, he made a date to see me. The date was at a bar, not the same bar, a different bar and it was a happy hour date. The rest is history, we dated, we moved in together, he went to Iraq, he came back...

This January we went to a wedding of a good friend of mine. During the after party, he kept telling me that he wanted to dance on the rooftop with me when we got back home. Our apartment building has an incredible rooftop with a view of downtown. It was around 1am in the morning when we got home and went up to the rooftop and started dancing. Mid-dance, he stopped and told me there was a question he wanted to ask. I turned around and there he was, on bended knee.

And here we are.

Venue Huntin' Part Two

After I left the Mondrian, it was time for me to skeedaddle quickly to Firesky Resort.

I was very excited to see this place because the online photos were gorgeous. And so it was in person, too.

















Exhibit A.

What you can or can't tell is it's also pretty small. And anyone at the pool can see you getting married. That's not so bad. But it was the ballroom and contact that made this a no for me. The ballroom didn't reflect the rest of the hotel. I'll elaborate. The hotel lobby is full of funky furniture like zebra ottomans. It's fun in the lobby. The ballroom is dark and drab.















And the contact. Hmm. I got word before meeting with her that the normal contact (a person with glowing reviews) was leaving so I was meeting with a catering manager. No problem. Well, she turned out to be very dry. VERY DRY. It was work just to talk with her.

Next up is a brand new venue located on downtown Mesa. I'm not from the area so I had no idea downtown Mesa had some questionable spots. This venue was located in one of them. It's called Tre Bella. And it's cute.

















Exhibit A.




















The bad news is the parking lot. I wouldn't park my car there or trust a valet to park it there either. It was an eyesore. And the ceremony and reception rooms are not connected. And to get to either one, guests enter from the back of the building. The back of the building houses all the other buisnesses' dumpsters and the caterer will be using the back too. And the best part is at least you can check in on your car when we switch rooms because that's what you see, too, the parking lot.



Thank goodness I was finished for the day and it was time for lunch.

Venue Huntin'

Both of our families live in Phoenix. So we thought we may as well have it there.

Note, my family is not from Phoenix, they just live there and when I say family, I mean my mom and my younger brother. All other fam on my side live in Florida and New York City.

His family is just as spread out with the bulk of them living in Phoenix.

In an effort not to make the important people in our lives travel far or travel at all - I gave Phoenix a chance...

Venue #1

The Mondrian Hotel

Let me preface - this was the very first place I visited.

I LOVE the Mondrian.

Exhibit A.

The Gathering. This is a pre-function/sorta hallway. Off to the sides are several meeting rooms behind curtained walls. People use the pre-function area as their function area. All the lounge furniture you see here, comes with! And a dance floor and lanterns and faux orchids in potted plants.

Exhibit B.

The Mondrian's contact. We clicked right away. She was super busy with all the NBA All Star activity happening in the hotel but she still made sure all my emails and questions were answered, same day. Now, in the wedding industry that is unbelievable. Same day contact! LOVE.

She was one of my two very favorite contacts out of too many too count. The downer of the Mondrian was price and bankruptcy rumors.

So, moving on...

First Things First

Have you set a date?
Where are you going to have it?

Oh my, if I had a dime for each time someone asked me any of the two questions above...

From the get go of putting my ring on my finger - we've both been blasted with these questions.

We had no answer. Problem #1.

Problem #2. We still have no answer.

Why B-squared?

Before I was engaged, my boyfriend then - now fiance would always joke if we got married and I kept my last name, it'd be B Squared.

Both our last names start with a B.

Now he talks of the future and calls us Team B-Squared.

*I have no idea if I'll keep my last name or not.

So...I love wedding blogs, have a personal blog and thought why the heck not? So here it is, in all its beginning glory - the plan to become B-Squared.